At
the beginning of every marriage,
the young bride has to cope with the terrible comparison between
her cookery, often scarce, and the dainties of her mother-in-law,
as her bridegroom always defines his mother’s cookery as
superlative.
Something
incredible happened to me, instead.
Notwithstanding
the fact that my mother-in-law was
an excellent mother and wife, she wasn’t really endowed with
cookery, so that I was relatively unexposed to the comparison.
My
first lunch was a disaster, but the fact that, despite the
adversity, my husband stayed next to me was a clear sign of the
durability of our marriage.
Then,
one day, he came carrying along the first of long series of
recipes, monthly published.
I
understood right away and started studying those recipes.
After
having studied all those complicated recipes, there was one thing
I could do quite well: tomato sauce.
But,
instead of appreciating my effort, that man always had something
to complain: "Yeah, it’s good; however, you know...
this sauce has nothing in common with the one my aunt Frances used
to prepare me when I was a young boy...".
As
you can understand, in my case, the "enemy" to beat in
cookery wasn’t my mother- in- law but
that my mother- in- law’s
old aunt, aunt Frances.
It
took me so long to try to make a tomato sauce "as the one of
aunt Frances", but one Sunday morning the sauce itself,
tired, decided to rest on the bottom of the frying-pan, getting
scorched.
That
sent me into a flat spin! Until then, despite my hard study, my
sauce wasn’t right, so that you can imagine the effect now
that it was scorched too! But it was late to try to make it again.
When
we sat down at the table I waited for my husband to taste it,
trying not to imagine the worst.
I
was so surprised when, looking at him and expecting him to get
down, he smiled to me and said: "At last! You got it right!
This is like aunt Frances’ sauce!"
I
was incredulous, but it took me just a few seconds to understand
that the old aunt always scorched her dainties, just that
little that was useful to make them taste such rustic and
ancient.
I
didn’t want to destroy my husband’s sweet memory of
the sauces of his childhood, confessing him that his aunt was a
little bit careless. Through exercise and experience, I finally
managed to equal that sauces even without scorching them, also
because it’s not simple to scorch them as much as it’s
necessary.
That’s
the reason why every Sunday, as a graceful host, the aunt is
there. Nobody can see her, but she’s there!
(English
translation by Silvia Mancini)
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